Allwomenstalk.com gets a woman to weigh in with their thoughts on an obvious cheater. 17 signs…
1. His Looks
Women aren’t the only sex to adjust their beauty habits while actively in an affair. So when he goes from never bothering to look in the mirror among other hygiene habits to spending more time in the mirror than with you, trouble may be brewing. New clothes in the closet, new haircut, new shoes, a complete overnight change, he may be making a conscious effort to aesthetically please other women.
2. Overtime at Work
If you’ve exhausted all other scenarios and reasons that your husband may actually be working, and you can’t figure out why he’s unreachable while staying late or on business trips, check his salary stub. It will list the hours he’s worked. If the hours aren’t accounted for, then you have the option to move forward with an investigation.
3. New Found Love for An Old Car
Your husband’s car used to be clad in old pizza boxes, water bottles, coffee cups, kids toys, and his smelly gym bag. If he suddenly keeps it squeaky clean and removing all traces of “family” from it, he may be using it for other activities.
4. Hairy Evidence
You’ve found the classic blonde hair when everyone in your household has brown hair. It’s possible that it could be a stray, but if it becomes a trend, start worrying.
5. Shy to Be Shirtless
Allwomenstalk.com explains that, “If he is suddenly ‘shy’ to change in front of you; if he makes sure that the two of you only have sex in the dark; if he wants to shower with the bathroom door locked out of the blue; and if he usually walks around in just his shorts but lately has been covering himself up more than necessary. Could there be a more obvious sign of cheating?”
6. Upset Stomach
Does your man keep blowing you off for lunch? Maybe he’s busy doing something else during lunch break. Does he seem increasingly disinterested in the dinners you cook, even his favorites? He uses excuses like “I have an upset stomach,” or “I’m just not hungry.” He’s been eating somewhere, just not with you
7. What’s That Smell
You smell perfume from a mile away; on him, on his clothes when he comes home late from work or a “guys’ night out”. The smell becomes increasingly familiar over time and it’s not yours!
8. Liar Liar
If you notice that your husband has been lying to you way too often, if he hasn’t been looking you in the eye when asked where he was or why he’s late and if he has one too many excuse for his actions, confront him. Too many cover ups = trouble.
9. Internet Love
An extreme increase in your husband’s online activity is a big red flag. Allwomenstalk.com states, “He is on his laptop ALL the time and you know it’s not work related. He is suddenly very active on social networking sites and it’s not just old friends he’s catching up with. He even has new email accounts that you don’t have the password to. Tip of the iceberg: When you suddenly walk into the room, he closes chat windows or the laptop screen itself and seems uncomfortable. Is he trying to hide his communication with someone?”
10. Bank Statements
A bank statement will tell you where your husband’s been (and when). Lingerie store? Jewelry store? Restaurants on the late night? If it’s not Valentine’s Day and your anniversary isn’t coming up anytime soon, start worrying.
11. Dry Spells
Couples go through dry spells without sex all the time. But if it’s been way too long for you and he’s not even interested in your advances or giving you a totally negative response, he may be getting his kicks elsewhere.
12. Secret Conversations
Allwomenstalk.com asks, “Do you ever catch him talking in a low voice or quickly finishing conversations when he sees you? Does he always keep his phone close by or leave the room when he gets a call?” The above mentioned behaviors are not common for someone that has nothing to hide.
13. Picking Fights
If he’s consistently picking fights and using them as an excuse to leave the house for a little to “cool off”, this can be his way out to see other women.
14. He Accuses You of Cheating
A guilty conscious will eventually overflow, and your partner randomly and without reason accusing you of cheating is another big red flag.
15. Need for Privacy
A sudden need for privacy should raise suspicions for you. Trust is key in all relationships, and he’s been keeping things from you. Find out why.
16. Mood Swings
“Does he appear to be happy and in good spirits when he’s leaving home but when he comes home he’s sad and withdrawn?” Look for his emotional behavior and identify when he’s in a better mood. If it’s when he’s leaving, something’s up.
17. Cold Shoulder
When a partner is cheating, it’s not uncommon to feel like the two of you are inevitably growing apart. There’s less communication, they start to give you the cold shoulder, and become increasingly emotionally detached.
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BuzzFeed featured a YouTube video with the title “Scary Facts About Cheating You Never Knew”. The statistics may shock you.
- 15% of married women cheat on their spouse.
- 25% of married men cheat on their spouse.
- Ashley Madison, a website dedicated to extramarital affairs, has over 23 million users.
- 3% of all children are products of cheating.
- 60% of cheaters are sure they got away with it.
- 68% of women would cheat if they knew they couldn’t get caught.
- 56% of cheating men insist they are happily married.
- Rich men are 11% more likely to cheat than poor men.
- 57% of cheating women are in love with their lover.
- Adultery is illegal in 23 states and leads to 17% of divorces.
- 10% of adulterers marry their lovers.
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Keep your eyes peeled for the 10 following behaviors that may indicate infidelity in your relationship:
1. Excuses, Excuses: A cheater will have to make time for a new fling, and possibly unusual times. But you can bet your bottom dollar there will be an excuse.
2. “Working” Late: All of a sudden, there’s a shift in work schedules. Your significant other is spending much more time out late at night.
3. Guarded on the Phone: If your significant other is stepping out of the room (or even out of the home) to take calls, something is awry in your relationship. There should not be a frequent number of conversations that you can’t be present for.
4. Spending Habits: If the two of you are generally on a fixed income, and money starts going missing or less of that income is spent on you, the balance may be spent on someone else.
5. Changes in your Sex Life: Not many have the energy to keeping up with multiple sexual partners. Pay attention if your significant other seems less interested in engaging in sexual activity with you. They may be seeking it elsewhere.
6. Personal Grooming: Take note of drastic changes in personal grooming habits, especially if your partner goes from a sweats-all-the-time wardrobe to a sudden interest in looking good before he or she leaves your home.
7. Internet Habits: Is your significant other spending an alarming amount of time online? With the endless outlets available to communicate online, striking up a new fling is effortless today.
8. New Email Addresses: Have you found your partner’s new email addresses, that you had no idea even existed? Big red flag.
9. Argumentative: It is not normal for someone to continuously pick fights with you over totally insignificant subjects.
10. The Painfully Obvious: Clear-cut evidence of cheating, lipstick on shirts, foreign cologne/perfume, hickies, even the scent of tobacco (especially if they don’t smoke).
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Dating Coach, David Wygant of YourTango.com talks about how friendships turn into affairs in this article posted on Huffington Post Divorce;
In my 15 years of coaching, women have come to me over and over again with the same problem: Falling for a married man. The story always begins the same way: “There’s this guy… he’s so great. We connect in every way and he makes my heart flutter like a schoolgirl. I know, I know. He’s married. But we’ve only gone on a couple of innocent dates…”
Then, the guy makes his move.
From the beginning, he tells you what a great friend you are — and how nice it is to finally meet someone he can talk to. You eat it up, thinking to yourself, “Yes, talking. That’s all we’re doing…”
Then suddenly things change. He seems different. Before you know it, he makes his move. He springs it upon you ever so slyly, making you feel special; making you feel unique. He’ll say things like, “Wow, my wife just doesn’t listen to me like you do.” Or, “She just doesn’t understand me. And it’s really nice to be with a woman that does.”
He’ll tell you this over a glass of Tempranillo as he looks longingly into your eyes, sweetly brushing a stray hair from your face. It’s kryptonite for the nurturing woman. And it kind of sounds like a date. A date with a married man.
Sure, on the surface, he looks like the all-American dad. On the surface, he looks like a great husband. He tells everybody that it’s okay his marriage isn’t passionate. He’s grown so much as an individual he thinks he doesn’t need wild, fulfilling sex anymore. He’d rather have somebody that’s a great mother than someone with great passion because “passion dies.”
He’s convinced himself of this.
We don’t want to speak to the potential other woman like Mr. Wygant is in this article. We want to speak to you, the potential victim of infidelity, and show you how a simple “friendship” may cross over into an affair.
1. Begins with an emotional affair. It may start as business and he’ll defend it by saying, “It’s just a business lunch/dinner,” or “We deserve a harmless happy hour after a long week.”
2. Progression to “innocent” flirting. Example: He’ll send texts telling her he read something reminding him of her.
3. He will tell you about his “friendship”. Speaking freely about this friendship will help him justify it, to you and him.
Whether they want to admit it or not, these men are looking for an affair; emotional or physical, or both.
If you think a friendship or work relationship that your significant other is engaged in has the potential to cross over into affair territory, or maybe it already has, contact the staff at ICU Investigations to get the proof and peace of mind you deserve.
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