Check out this infographic posted by Richard Johnson of the National Post demonstrating the
demographics of adultery according to a 2011 survey of 918 US adults by the Kinsey Institute
for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction.
23.2% of men and 19.2% of women featured below said they had cheating in their current relationship!
GQ featured an article referring new data compiled from the most popular dating site for people looking for extramarital affairs, AshleyMadison.com.
According to GQ…cheaters cheat for disappointingly predictable and unentertaining reasons, such as…”because they’re rich and they just want to, okay?”
AshleyMadison surveyed 53,000 members and revealed that “80.3 percent of male cheaters and 72.3 percent of females out-earn their spouses, and 81% of males and 77 percent of females spend more than $500 on their cheating partners. By comparison, only 47 percent of men surveyed and 40% of women spend as much on their spouses.”
AshleyMadison’s founder and CEO, Noel Biderman, says, “We were not entirely surprised by the findings since cheaters are often the well-connected earners who have the means to do what they want.”
Another interesting tidbit. Over 50% of the cheaters have 300+ LinkedIn connections. And according to GQ, it’s “because that’s the kind of people they are. People who really enjoy spending time on the website LinkedIn. You know, super exciting people.”
Michelle Toglia of YourTango.com compiled a list of journal studies and surveys of users on multiple cheating websites to determine the characteristics of those who are most likely to cheat on their significant others. Science or coincidence? You decide.
1. Tall Men
IllicitEncounters.com conducted a study that identified men over 5’10” are twice as likely to cheating on their significant other.
2. Rock Music Fans
Another study conducted by IllicitEnounters.com identified that 41% of users listen to rock music as opposed to other genres (Hint: People who prefer rap music are least likely to be unfaithful).
3. Language of Love
Michelle Toglia says, “What can you expect in a relationship with the best lovers in the world? Wine, cheese and an affair, says science. According to LELO, a luxury sex toy brand who surveyed the globe about bedroom habits, 75% of the French admit to cheating.”
4. Blondes Have More Fun
…If cheating on your significant other is your idea of a good time. 42% of cheating women have blonde hair, according to a CheaterVille.com survey (Another hint: only 11% of women with black hair identify themselves as cheaters).
5. Tweeters are Cheaters
Research conducted at the University of Missouri says that the more often a person uses Twitter, the more often they have relationship conflicts…like affairs. #Nokidding #PUTTHEPHONEDOWN
6. Female Teachers
AshleyMadison.com conducted a survey asking their users what profession/field they were in. Result for which professions are most likely to stray? Michelle Toglia says, “the typical cheating wife is likely to be a teacher. Someone’s gotta teach these ladies a lesson — just don’t call tech support…”
7. I.T. Guys
The same AshleyMadison survey identifies I.T. guys as most likely to cheat.
“AshleyMadison also revealed that their typical, adulterous female user is a serious shopper. More than a third of the women surveyed said they spend more on their appearance since they started cheating,” says Toglia. “And, 27 percent have a secret credit card to fund their purchases. The preferred brand of the unfaithful? Banana Republic.”
9. Wayne’s World
2,000 women ranked guys named “Wayne” the least trustworthy in a study.
- Your spouse sets up a private (separate) e-mail account that you knew nothing about.
- Your spouse suddenly spends a significant amount of time checking and answering their emails (almost obsessively).
- Your spouse suddenly deletes all emails from their account when they would regularly let them accumulate.
- Your spouse is quick to delete an email immediately after reading it then clearing out the “trash” to ensure it’s gone.
- Your spouse buys a cell phone on a separate account that you don’t have access to and doesn’t let you know about it (usually billed to their office or another location).
- Your spouse suddenly deletes all text messages/voicemails/call logs.
- You’re never allowed to check their phone, and they go to great lengths to make certain their cell is not answered by you.
- Your spouses phone never leaves their side.
- When they receive bizarre text messages from “friends” you’ve never heard of. These contacts are most likely ‘pretend’ names to cover up their true identity.
- Excessive internet usage, especially late at night.
- Your spouse is staying up late to “work” or “play a game” after you go to bed.
- When your spouse locks their computer or laptop with a passcode.
- Your spouse suddenly shuts down the computer when you walk into the room.
- Your spouse guards access to Facebook or other social media.
- Your spouse has sites such as “ashleymadison” or “adultfriendfinder” in their browser history, or they erase their history each night.
Please know that all of the data that your spouse erases from electronic devices has never truly been deleted.
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Finding out or having suspicions that you’ve been cheated on comes with high emotions, which are also accompanied by impulsive decisions. Tracy Schorn of Huffington Post Divorce says that, “The goal here, upon finding out that you’ve been cheated on, is to take back your power, maintain your dignity and not do anything homicidal.”
Read the following five principles highlighting what NOT to do if you find out you’ve been cheated on:
1. Do not confront the cheater without solid proof. This principle is key, especially since most cheaters will deny, deny, deny. That’s what we’re here for: evidence, solid proof, and peace of mind. When a cheater is presented with irrefutable evidence, there is nowhere else to run.
2. Never accept accountability for their cheating indiscretions. According to Schorn, “People cheat because they feel entitled to. Cheaters are 100 percent responsible for their decision to cheat.” Don’t let them put the blame on you, and never feel guilty for protecting yourself. There are hundreds of other options to proactively take control of your relationship if you’re unhappy. Cheating is not one of them.
3. Don’t give them any time to “decide.” “Have you heard the expression, don’t make anyone a priority who only makes you an option? You are not an option,” says Schorn. “You are their spouse. This is not a contest. They made a commitment to you. They don’t get to renegotiate the terms. Stalling for time, acting vague about how they intend to make this right, talking a good game and never coming through on the particulars — these are all ploys to keep them in the affair.” The cheater needs to decide NOW.
4. Do not beg. Do not allow the cheater to see that they are in the position of power. MAINTAIN YOUR DIGNITY. It is perfectly ok to cry and be upset and angry. Schorn says to let that anger “fuel you forward” and stand your ground.
5. Do not waste your time trying to fix them. Naturally, after discovering infidelity, Schorn says, “You’ll posit theories. You’ll deconstruct their family of origin issues. You’ll order a dozen infidelity books on Amazon. All this does is keep your energy focused on them. Not you. You only get to control yourself. So what do you want? Is this person someone you want to invest in? What is acceptable and unacceptable to you? And what are you going to do about it? If you’re so busy trying to uncode them, or predict what they’ll do next, or prevent them from doing some awful thing, you will just stay stuck. It doesn’t matter why they are how they are. You can’t fix it. You just get to fix you.”
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