We always talk about the obvious signs of cheating…but what about the behaviors we may not notice or think twice about? In an article for YourTango.com, Patti Blue Hayes wants you to take a look at these 6 not-so-obvious signs he may be cheating:
1. Manscaping and Getting Buff
Staying in shape and personal hygiene are important. But when he starts spending hours the gym and shaving and trimming down more than he’s ever done in the past, that’s a big red flag. Is he more enamored with his own body than yours when you stand next to him in front of the bathroom mirror?
2. Excluded from Business Events
Business events with clients and other co-workers are normal functions. But have you just recently been excluded from the social gatherings, and then learn other spouses had attended? Look for changes in the norm!
3. Sudden Anger Outbursts
Hayes asks, “Is he showing anger and volatility that he never had before? That could be his guilt turned outward toward you. He may feel a sense of guilt for cheating but can’t man up to tell you the truth, so it’s his unconscious protection mechanism to keep him safe that has him blaming you for his outbursts.”
4. New Moves in the Bedroom
“Where’d you learn that? Those were my exact words after he did something a little different during sex,” says Hayes. Raise that red flag when he comes home with some new moves, unless of course the two of you have decided to explore some new techniques in the bedroom.
5. He Starts to Drink, Smoke, and Avoid You
This ties into the same concept as the anger outbursts. His guilt is coming out in other ways. Maybe he’s drinking excessively, smoking like a chimney, gambling, spending, or just plain old avoiding you.
According to Hayes, “Again, you’re keeping an eye out for a change in normal activity. His cheating is like a cancer cell–an abnormal change in behavior–and you’re looking for irregularities.”
Also, be sure to pay attention to his actions, not his words and empty promises.
6. His Phone Password is a Secret…Suddenly
If your husband never kept a password on his phone, or the two of you shared your passwords with one another, and that has suddenly changed (especially if he won’t share the new password with you), he’s hiding something. There’s never been a reason for it previously, so why is there a reason to keep his phone guarded now?
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Statistics say that 70 percent of married women and 54 percent of married men did not know of their spouses’ extramarital activity. Maybe there was no physical evidence left behind…or so you thought.
The staff at ICU has fully licensed and certified computer forensic specialists that can uncover each piece of electronic evidence that your cheating spouse has tried to erase from computers.
Evidence can be found in:
- Hidden/deleted email
- Hidden files
- Web history
- Unallocated file space
There is a wealth of data left on cell phones daily. And just like computers, nothing is ever truly erased.
Evidence can be found in:
- Deleted text messages
- Web site history
- Deleted photos
- GPS location information
- Also, cell phones leave us a complete timeline of events that can be recovered.
Forensic investigations can be performed on almost any handheld device including iPhones and Android phonse (passwords can be recovered and/or bypassed).
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Gail Saltz, clinical associate professor of psychiatry at New York–Presbyterian Hospital, and the author of Anatomy of a Secret Life: The Psychology of Living a Lie, contributed to Oprah.com with an article focusing on the hurtful effects of emotional infidelity.
Some think, “I haven’t had any physical contact with anyone else, so it’s not cheating.” Wrong. According to Saltz, “Emotional cheating (with an ‘office husband,’ a chat room lover, or a newly appealing ex) steers clear of physical intimacy, but it does involve secrecy, deception, and therefore betrayal. People enmeshed in nonsexual affairs preserve their ‘deniability,’ convincing themselves they don’t have to change anything. That’s where they’re wrong. If you think about it, it’s the breach of trust, more than the sex, that’s the most painful aspect of an affair and, I can tell you from my work as a psychiatrist, the most difficult to recover from.”
Maybe your spouse is feeling mundane in the relationship, bored, frustrated, isolated, etc. There comes a time when some people decide that “it is what it is” and steer clear of attempting to improve their marriage. This opens up the door to trouble, and according to Saltz, “while they aren’t consciously in the market, they are ripe for an affair of the heart: hungry for attention, craving excitement, and eager for someone to fill the emptiness they feel inside.”
Your spouse may rely on another person for the emotional satisfaction that is no longer provided to them. Saltz is finding that this type of infidelity is becoming alarmingly common. And with today’s technology and an abundance of ways to privately connect with other individuals, emotional affairs (with can and do turn into sexual ones) are taking a toll on marriages everywhere.
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Huffington Post Divorce posted the findings of a study conducted by Texas A&M University which concluded that a male’s stronger sexual impulses could be to blame for his cheating habits, not his lack of self-control.
The first of two studies asked 70 males and 149 females how they responded to past sexual temptations.
The authors of the study, Natasha Tidwell and Paul Eastwick, concluded that men and women have no evident differences in self-control. However…
According to Tidwell, “When men reflected on their past sexual behavior, they reported experiencing relatively stronger impulses and acting on those impulses more than women did.”
Eastwick pointed out that men cheat most often because they give in to their sexual impulses. “Men have plenty of self-control — just as much as women. However, if men fail to use self-control, their sexual impulses can be quite strong. This is often the situation when cheating occurs,” Eastwick explained.
The second study consisted of 326 men and 274 women given a rapid-response test. During the test, researchers showed participants photos of generally attractive/desirable potential romantic partners, as well as generally unattractive/undesirable potential romantic partners. Each photo was also accompanied by computer-generated compatibility information. The participants were asked whether or not they’d like to enter into a romantic relationship with that person.
The study found that, “men were more likely to accept attractive people, regardless of whether the computer deemed them a good or bad match. According to the researchers, this indicates that men have a stronger impulse to become romantically involved with desirable individuals even if the relationship would be bad — like an affair would be.”
Check out this infographic posted by Richard Johnson of the National Post demonstrating the
demographics of adultery according to a 2011 survey of 918 US adults by the Kinsey Institute
for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction.
23.2% of men and 19.2% of women featured below said they had cheating in their current relationship!