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FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

What is domestic surveillance?

Domestic surveillance is the method used to discover if spouses are cheating on each other. It can involve husbands, wives, boyfriends or girlfriends. Also referred to as “tailing someone” it is the technique of putting an investigator out in the field that follows the suspected cheater to document their activities without their knowledge. This is accomplished by recording their activities on videotape.

I feel embarrassed about even talking to someone about this.

We get calls every day from people in relationships who suspect their spouse or significant others of cheating. It is nothing to be embarrassed about. What you are seeking is peace of mind about something you are not sure of. It is natural to seek to determine if your suspicions are real or imagined. We invest a tremendous part of ourselves in relationships. It is natural to want to determine the strength and integrity of that relationship.

What if I am wrong?

If there is no evidence the subject is cheating, you will have gained peace of mind about your relationship. Since our investigations are 100% confidential, you will not have risked sacrificing the relationship if you are wrong.

Is domestic surveillance legal?

Surveillance is the process of documenting what is going on in the world of an individual. No laws are broken. It is 100% legal.

I have never hired a private investigator, how do I start?

First you need to be sure you retain the services of a reputable, honest licensed detective agency. Make sure they are well established with a track record. Check to be sure they are fully licensed and insured. Do they have actual offices or is it someone working out their home? Do they answer the phone with a live person or do you get voice mail or a cell phone in the field? Check with the Better Business Bureau to be sure there are no complaints about the company. Last of all do your own “gut check” about the agency you are talking to. Do they make you feel at ease? Are they using pressure tactics and hard sell techniques?

What are the fees charged for domestic surveillance?

Surveillance is billed on an hourly basis plus a mileage charge. Before the project is started, a strategy is established depending on the circumstances and your needs. Once this plan is in place a budget can be established. Investigation services are payable in advance of the work being conducted. Payment can be made by credit card (over the phone if you wish), or by cash, check or money order.

How is the surveillance plan established?

You will need to let the investigator know at which times you think the suspected activity is taking place. Will we need to follow the person from home or from work? Does the person have a fixed schedule? Do you know anything about the suspected other party. All these questions and more go into creating an effective surveillance strategy.

What will I need to tell the investigator?

The following are some of the things that help us get the investigation started. You may not have all the information, however the more you have the better. The investigator will need a photograph of the person being investigated. If the subject is being followed from home, it can also helpful to have photographs of other members of the household. We will need a complete description of the subject, weight, height, hair color, etc. If you think you know the other party they are cheating with, give us whatever information you know about them.

We will need to know the make, model and color of the subject’s vehicle, with license plate if possible. If we are following them from work, we will need to know the type of parking and where they park their vehicle.

We will also need to know the driving habits of the subject and the addresses of places you think they may visit.

How many agents are used on a domestic surveillance case?

The number of agents used depends on a number of factors. Basic surveillance on an individual being followed from home or an uncomplicated work situation can be conducted by one agent. More complicated scenarios, such as following someone from a high-rise office building, or airport or hotel require an additional agent. Other factors in which we may recommend a second agent include fast and aggressive drivers and extra alert drivers who always watch the rear view mirror. Of course an additional agent increases the cost of a surveillance, and this factor is also taken into consideration in arriving at your budget.

How will you contact me without tipping off my spouse?

First we will ask if the phone number you give is secure. Saying it is secure means that only you or someone you trust answers the phone and that we can safely leave a voice mail message if no one answers. If the number is not secure, we will discuss other strategies. When we contact you the first thing we will say is “is this a good time to talk”. If the subject or someone else is present and you can’t talk, you can say “no” or you can say “you have the wrong number” or anything else. We will hang up and you can call us back when it is safe.

What do I do once the surveillance is set up?

Once the surveillance plan is in place it is important that you do not do anything to tip off the subject to the investigation. Do not change your habits and do not ask too many questions about their activities.

How do you follow someone?

The techniques of tailing someone are an acquired skill. When following someone we are constantly weighing two factors against each other. First we want to stay close enough to make sure we do not loose the subject at a traffic light or in heavy traffic. However we are constantly balancing this against staying so close that we run the risk of being observed by the subject. The art of balancing these two factors in a variety of situations can executed well only by having an experienced investigator working the case. In some cases a second agent is preferable or required, which allows us to keep safer distances while not minimizing the chance of loosing the subject.

Will the suspected cheater find out that they are being watched?

Our surveillance investigations are 100% confidential. We do everything necessary to insure the covert nature of the investigation. If we ever perceive that the security of the investigation is threatened, we pull back and with your input reconsider the tactics being deployed.

What evidence will I receive at the conclusion?

The evidence collected in domestic surveillance consists of the videotape of the activities and a surveillance report, which details all the activity in writing. Both are submitted to you, or if you wish we can maintain them for you.

What sets ICU Investigation apart from other detective agencies?

At ICU Investigation we deliver quality investigation. Every organization is only as good as their staff. At ICU Investigations we have seasoned professionals in the field working for you. Several of our agents are ex-law enforcement agents and ex-policemen.

How do you go about getting started? Call ICU Investigation for a free consultation concerning your specific situation. They work with you to devise the best strategy for success. The toll free line for your Free Discreet Confidential Consultation is (800) 524-9755.

30 Signs Of Infidelity!!

A cheating spouse or significant other will tend to exhibit some of the signs of infidelity listed below. If you are suspicious of a loved one, go through our signs of infidelity checklist. Does your mate show any signs of unavailability at work, increased time away from home or unusual cell phone usage, or other signs of infidelity If more than a few of the indicators below are present, the next step is to conduct surveillance to confirm your suspicions. ICU Investigations will deliver a high quality investigation. By contacting us, you will be able to obtain piece of mind.

Domestic – At Home

• Sudden increase in time away from home
• Decreased sexual interest
• Subject is often distracted and day dreaming
• Subject is often unavailable at work
• Subject attends more work functions alone
• Cell phone calls are not returned in timely fashion
• Subject leaves house or goes to other rooms to talk on the telephone
• Subject uses computer alone and secretly
• Subject asks about your schedule more often than usual
• Mileage on car is high when only short distance errands are run
• Clothes smell of perfume, massage oil residue and sex
• Clothes contain makeup or lipstick smudges
• Subject gets his laundry done independently
• Viagra usage increases

Records

• Credit card bills contain unusual gifts, travel, restaurant and “unspecified” charges
• Gas credit cards contain uncommon locations of gas stations
• Unexplained payments on bank statements
• Subject has more cash on hand without accountability
• Cell phone bills contain calls with long duration
• Home phone and calling card records contain calls with long duration
• Business phone records contain unusual calls
• Subject has unexplained receipts or personal effects in wallet

Technical

• Subject has suspicious phone voice-mail messages
• Subject has suspicious cell phone numbers stored or dialed
• Subject has suspicious pager messages
• Unknown pager numbers stored in subject’s memory
• Internet web browser history list (this is a record of web sites visited) contains unusual sites
• Frequent visits to Internet free e-mail accounts
• Uncommon e-mail messages
• Uncommon deleted e-mail messages

How do you go about getting started? Call ICU Investigation for a free consultation concerning your specific situation. They work with you to devise the best strategy for success. The toll free line for your Free Discreet Confidential Consultation is (800) 524-9755.

Catching a cheating spouse or “significant other” requires the skills of a private investigator. Cheaters and those involved in infidelity expend a great deal of energy keeping their affair hidden. To make things more difficult, the motto of any cheating spouse is “deny, deny, deny!”

First one has to be aware of the signs of infidelity and determine which ones apply to your situation. (Check out our page on The 30 Signs of infidelity) Second, you need to analyze the opportunities for being unfaithful. Third, you need to consult with an experienced private investigator to devise the most efficient strategy to catch the cheater in the act. Lastly, you need to assist the investigator in executing the plan to obtain the evidence.

All this can sound like basic advice, however catching someone in a lie and proving it can be challenging. In many cases the cheating person, (husband, wife, boyfriend or girlfriend, etc.) has been lying about the affair for months or years. You may have gotten to the point where you are questioning your own sanity about whether you are imaging it or not. Partnering with a professional investigator can bring objectivity and sanity to the process of solving your problem and ultimately give you Peace of Mind.

How do you go about getting started? Call ICU Investigation for a free consultation concerning your specific situation. We work with you to devise the best strategy for success. Our toll free line for your Free Discreet Confidential Consultation is (800) 524-9755. Or you can e-mail us at info@icuinvestigations.com

1. You indirectly find out from your partner that he or she is having sex with someone else. This can include:

• Smelling “sex” on a partner.
• Your partner suddenly asks to have sex with other people.
• Your partner suddenly does not want to have sex anymore
• Your partner calls you by the name of another person during an act of sex (not a former boyfriend or girlfriend).

2. Revelations of sexual infidelity.

• You witness or are directly told of your partner having sex with another.
• Your partner confesses to having an affair.
• Someone admits to you they have been having sex with your partner.
• Exaggerated displays of affection.
• Your partner suddenly starts to profess his or her “love” more than they used to.
• Your partner suddenly starts acting overly affectionate.
• Your partner starts talking about sex more often.

3. Exaggerated displays of affection.

• Your partner suddenly starts to profess his or her “love” more than they used to.
• Your partner suddenly starts acting overly affectionate.
• Your partner starts talking about sex more often.

4. Sexual disinterest or boredom.

• Your partner starts to act like he or she is “going through the motions” when having sex.
• Your partner suddenly seems less sexually aroused.
• Your partner begins to have shorter sex sessions, replacing what was once a long, passionate experience.

5. Emotional disengagement

• Your partner doesn’t respond when you say, “I love you”.
• Your partner suddenly starts acting rude towards you and distancing himself or herself from your daily life.
• Your partner starts looking for reasons to start an argument with you and then says, “We just don’t get along – we should think about this relationship”.
• Your partner changes the subject when a certain person’s name comes up and acts anxious.
• Your partner refuses to make eye contact with you, where once this was not an issue.

The fact is, nobody wants to be emotionally violated. This is because feelings and emotions are fragile things and it hurts when the person we love causes pain. If you suspect that your partner is cheating, then it might be time to confront him or her and ask for answers. Before doing so, be sure to have a sound basis for making accusations – a charge of infidelity is extremely serious. Having the proof documented by a professional investigator can make all the difference.

If you have questions or concerns don’t hesitate and call us today or click the link at the top for a Free Consulation.  Get the professional help you need!