Michelle Toglia of YourTango.com compiled a list of journal studies and surveys of users on multiple cheating websites to determine the characteristics of those who are most likely to cheat on their significant others. Science or coincidence? You decide.
1. Tall Men
IllicitEncounters.com conducted a study that identified men over 5’10” are twice as likely to cheating on their significant other.
2. Rock Music Fans
Another study conducted by IllicitEnounters.com identified that 41% of users listen to rock music as opposed to other genres (Hint: People who prefer rap music are least likely to be unfaithful).
3. Language of Love
Michelle Toglia says, “What can you expect in a relationship with the best lovers in the world? Wine, cheese and an affair, says science. According to LELO, a luxury sex toy brand who surveyed the globe about bedroom habits, 75% of the French admit to cheating.”
4. Blondes Have More Fun
…If cheating on your significant other is your idea of a good time. 42% of cheating women have blonde hair, according to a CheaterVille.com survey (Another hint: only 11% of women with black hair identify themselves as cheaters).
5. Tweeters are Cheaters
Research conducted at the University of Missouri says that the more often a person uses Twitter, the more often they have relationship conflicts…like affairs. #Nokidding #PUTTHEPHONEDOWN
6. Female Teachers
AshleyMadison.com conducted a survey asking their users what profession/field they were in. Result for which professions are most likely to stray? Michelle Toglia says, “the typical cheating wife is likely to be a teacher. Someone’s gotta teach these ladies a lesson — just don’t call tech support…”
7. I.T. Guys
The same AshleyMadison survey identifies I.T. guys as most likely to cheat.
“AshleyMadison also revealed that their typical, adulterous female user is a serious shopper. More than a third of the women surveyed said they spend more on their appearance since they started cheating,” says Toglia. “And, 27 percent have a secret credit card to fund their purchases. The preferred brand of the unfaithful? Banana Republic.”
9. Wayne’s World
2,000 women ranked guys named “Wayne” the least trustworthy in a study.
- Your spouse sets up a private (separate) e-mail account that you knew nothing about.
- Your spouse suddenly spends a significant amount of time checking and answering their emails (almost obsessively).
- Your spouse suddenly deletes all emails from their account when they would regularly let them accumulate.
- Your spouse is quick to delete an email immediately after reading it then clearing out the “trash” to ensure it’s gone.
- Your spouse buys a cell phone on a separate account that you don’t have access to and doesn’t let you know about it (usually billed to their office or another location).
- Your spouse suddenly deletes all text messages/voicemails/call logs.
- You’re never allowed to check their phone, and they go to great lengths to make certain their cell is not answered by you.
- Your spouses phone never leaves their side.
- When they receive bizarre text messages from “friends” you’ve never heard of. These contacts are most likely ‘pretend’ names to cover up their true identity.
- Excessive internet usage, especially late at night.
- Your spouse is staying up late to “work” or “play a game” after you go to bed.
- When your spouse locks their computer or laptop with a passcode.
- Your spouse suddenly shuts down the computer when you walk into the room.
- Your spouse guards access to Facebook or other social media.
- Your spouse has sites such as “ashleymadison” or “adultfriendfinder” in their browser history, or they erase their history each night.
Please know that all of the data that your spouse erases from electronic devices has never truly been deleted.
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Finding out or having suspicions that you’ve been cheated on comes with high emotions, which are also accompanied by impulsive decisions. Tracy Schorn of Huffington Post Divorce says that, “The goal here, upon finding out that you’ve been cheated on, is to take back your power, maintain your dignity and not do anything homicidal.”
Read the following five principles highlighting what NOT to do if you find out you’ve been cheated on:
1. Do not confront the cheater without solid proof. This principle is key, especially since most cheaters will deny, deny, deny. That’s what we’re here for: evidence, solid proof, and peace of mind. When a cheater is presented with irrefutable evidence, there is nowhere else to run.
2. Never accept accountability for their cheating indiscretions. According to Schorn, “People cheat because they feel entitled to. Cheaters are 100 percent responsible for their decision to cheat.” Don’t let them put the blame on you, and never feel guilty for protecting yourself. There are hundreds of other options to proactively take control of your relationship if you’re unhappy. Cheating is not one of them.
3. Don’t give them any time to “decide.” “Have you heard the expression, don’t make anyone a priority who only makes you an option? You are not an option,” says Schorn. “You are their spouse. This is not a contest. They made a commitment to you. They don’t get to renegotiate the terms. Stalling for time, acting vague about how they intend to make this right, talking a good game and never coming through on the particulars — these are all ploys to keep them in the affair.” The cheater needs to decide NOW.
4. Do not beg. Do not allow the cheater to see that they are in the position of power. MAINTAIN YOUR DIGNITY. It is perfectly ok to cry and be upset and angry. Schorn says to let that anger “fuel you forward” and stand your ground.
5. Do not waste your time trying to fix them. Naturally, after discovering infidelity, Schorn says, “You’ll posit theories. You’ll deconstruct their family of origin issues. You’ll order a dozen infidelity books on Amazon. All this does is keep your energy focused on them. Not you. You only get to control yourself. So what do you want? Is this person someone you want to invest in? What is acceptable and unacceptable to you? And what are you going to do about it? If you’re so busy trying to uncode them, or predict what they’ll do next, or prevent them from doing some awful thing, you will just stay stuck. It doesn’t matter why they are how they are. You can’t fix it. You just get to fix you.”
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Meagan McCrary, co-author of The Little Black Book of Big Red Flags, composed the article “Infidelity Red Flags Confirmed By Real Women” (and the men who have experienced it), which highlights how women are more emotionally-driven in contrast to men when it comes to infidelity.
1. Diverting the guilt: Women who are cheating may project those feelings onto their significant others by accusing them of cheating. “My girlfriend of three years all of a sudden started questioning my every move,” said Mark, 28. “Turned out she had slept with another guy.”
2. Sudden change in appearance: According to Sara, 27, “I typically showed up for my business school classes in sweats, no makeup, hair in a bun. I had a boyfriend; what did I care? Then I developed a crush on a guy in one of my classes. Soon enough, I was spending an hour to get ready for school, swapping my ratty sweats for cute dresses.”
3. Sudden need of more space: 29-year-old Jeff says, “My ex told me she needed some space, then went off to hook up with someone else.”
4. Complaints about the lack of romance in your relationship: According to Leslie, 39, “I’m one of those women who craves romance, cuddling, flowers, love notes, the whole shebang. I’ve reminded him that there are other fish in the sea. No change. So when a guy in my office started paying all sorts of attention to me, I went with it.”
5. A new “best friend”: “After living together for three years, I knew the relationship was over when my ex started spending all of her free time––and all of the time we had to spend together––going to the clubs with a woman she met in her spin class,” says Chris, 27. Wingwoman? Maybe. Has she cheated yet? Not necessarily. But she’s enjoying what it feels like to be living the single life!
6. Staying out all night: 27-year-old Sara said, “I told my boyfriend I was going out for drinks with a colleague and would meet up with him later in the night. Then a guy I had a crush on from work showed up. Hours later, I called my boyfriend to say I was ‘too drunk’ and needed to sleep at my friend’s apartment; then I went home with the guy.”
7. The people closest to you tell you she’s cheating: For the most part, the people that are closest to you are looking out for your best interest, so when they take the time to reveal that your significant other may be or is cheating, you should listen. “I knew someone who had firsthand knowledge my girlfriend was cheating,” says 28-year-old Mark. “But I believed her when she said it was a lie, because nobody wants to believe the worst, no matter how obvious it may be.”
8. A sudden interest in your schedule: Rachel, 36, says “My ex-husband was an electrician, and his work schedule was different from day to day. Sometimes he would be home at noon, sometimes not till 8 at night. When I planned to meet up with my fling, I would always call him in the morning to see where he was going to be later that day.”
9. She gives every excuse in the book not to have sex: “We stopped sleeping together because she didn’t ‘feel as close to me’ as she used to,” says Mark. “I’m assuming now that this was because she was feeling closer to the other guy’s naked body.”
10. She could care less…about everything: Jen, 30, says this about her and her husband’s relationship; “After being married for five years, our screaming and fighting faded into a general tolerance for one another. I was tempted to cheat on a few occasions and even took a guy’s phone number. I was desperate for a little excitement.”
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Huffington Post Divorce posted an article written by Sasha Brown-Worsham on CafeMom’s blog, The Stir, in which they conducted a survey asking women, “What are the signs that you are about to cheat?” What was it that made straying from their marriages an attractive idea?
Here are the five answers compiled in the survey of women who cheated on their spouse:
1. Sex life on the decline: According to Huffington Post, “A lot of the women said that between the stress of raising children and the stress of working, they were having sex less and less. Eventually, some guy caught their eye and boom! They were the cliched housewife sleeping with their personal trainers.”
2. You’ve only had sex with…him: An anonymous source answered with, “I was 24 when I got married to my husband just out of college. I never slept with anyone but him.” She thought maybe there was something else out there; she was curious. Brown-Worsham says, “This led to her being curious, and curiosity… well, it sometimes kills cats and other times it leads to affairs.”
3. Lack in compliments: Sometimes, you just need to feel appreciated for all of the things that you do. When you’ve been in a monogamous relationship for some time, the compliments decrease and you’re left feeling like you need more.
4. Revenge affair: Women could seek a revenge affair because their spouse cheated, or because they feel betrayed in other ways, such as one source whose, “husband was a gambler who left them in financial ruin.”
5. Just plain neglect: Busy, busy, busy. Everyone has responsibilities to care of at work, home, school, etc. After a while, we feel like it has been months, even years since we’ve gotten some attention. And another man might give her that attention she craves.