The Infidelity Investigator

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It is estimated that roughly 30 to 60% of all married individuals in the United States will engage in infidelity at some point during their marriage.

What should you do if you know they are cheating, but have no idea when? We can help you with matters of infidelity and cheating.

Any good investigator will have many questions for you, one of the most important being, where and when will the surveillance begin?

We don’t ask this question to frustrate you. We realize that in most cases, “if you knew that” you wouldn’t need us. Well, here’s the thing, we don’t know your husband/boyfriend/wife/girlfriend at all. I don’t know that your significant other works late on Tuesdays and Thursdays, has dinner with his folks every Sunday at 5 and has his kids every Wednesday and every other weekend, for example.

With that being said, there are a couple of things you can consider when choosing your most effective “start time”.

Rule out the periods of time when you are absolutely certain that it CANNOT be happening, i.e., those times listed above. Once you put pen to paper, you may see a clear pattern of behavior emerge, for example; Aha! Monday evenings, he is supposed to get off of work at 5, but he never gets home until 8. There you have it, your rock solid start time.

But he’s in sales, you say. He is his company’s most valued employee as he is tireless in his dedication to his work and clients. He is ALWAYS working, you say.

Well, have no fear. Here is when some good, ol’ fashioned creativity comes in handy. If cheater offers no clear opportunity, then we will create one for him.

Do you ever travel? Enjoy weekend visits with your folks or old friends? Not usually?

Well, do it now. Hire yourself a professional investigator to monitor the where-abouts of your sweetie. Give him plenty of notice. If cheater is seeing someone else who is supposedly in a committed relationship, this will give them an opportunity to get their stories straight and free them self of their significant other during the same time.

Still nothing? You say, “but we haven’t spent one night apart in 25 years……”

Then you leave your investigator very few options. You must increase your budget.

We hate to ask. We like to work cost efficiently. But in cases such as the above, we just have to ask you to pick a time and go for it. Perhaps you can start with 30-40 hours. Let the investigator get out in the field to get a feel for his subject. He may find that after 5 hours spent tailing the subject, he has an idea of what’s going on and can offer helpful suggestions as far as when the subsequent surveillance sessions should realistically begin.

We do hope that these tips help. We want to help you, but remember, you’ve loved this person for how long now and you don’t know what’s going on.

Here’s a great little video on Infidelity Basic and Adultery by Dr Sheri Meyers, a noted Marriage and family Counselor.

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Catching a cheating spouse or “significant other” requires the skills of a private investigator. Cheaters and those involved in infidelity expend a great deal of energy keeping their affair hidden. To make things more difficult, the motto of any cheating spouse is “deny, deny, deny!”

First one has to be aware of the signs of infidelity and determine which ones apply to your situation. (Check out our page on The 30 Signs of infidelity) Second, you need to analyze the opportunities for being unfaithful. Third, you need to consult with an experienced private investigator to devise the most efficient strategy to catch the cheater in the act. Lastly, you need to assist the investigator in executing the plan to obtain the evidence.

All this can sound like basic advice, however catching someone in a lie and proving it can be challenging. In many cases the cheating person, (husband, wife, boyfriend or girlfriend, etc.) has been lying about the affair for months or years. You may have gotten to the point where you are questioning your own sanity about whether you are imaging it or not. Partnering with a professional investigator can bring objectivity and sanity to the process of solving your problem and ultimately give you Peace of Mind.

How do you go about getting started? Call ICU Investigation for a free consultation concerning your specific situation. We work with you to devise the best strategy for success. Our toll free line for your Free Discreet Confidential Consultation is (800) 524-9755. Or you can e-mail us at info@icuinvestigations.com