Any good investigator will have many questions for you, one of the most important being, where and when will the surveillance begin?

We don’t ask this question to frustrate you. We realize that in most cases, “if you knew that” you wouldn’t need us. Well, here’s the thing, we don’t know your husband/boyfriend/wife/girlfriend at all. I don’t know that your significant other works late on Tuesdays and Thursdays, has dinner with his folks every Sunday at 5 and has his kids every Wednesday and every other weekend, for example.

With that being said, there are a couple of things you can consider when choosing your most effective “start time”.

Rule out the periods of time when you are absolutely certain that it CANNOT be happening, i.e., those times listed above. Once you put pen to paper, you may see a clear pattern of behavior emerge, for example; Aha! Monday evenings, he is supposed to get off of work at 5, but he never gets home until 8. There you have it, your rock solid start time.

But he’s in sales, you say. He is his company’s most valued employee as he is tireless in his dedication to his work and clients. He is ALWAYS working, you say.

Well, have no fear. Here is when some good, ol’ fashioned creativity comes in handy. If cheater offers no clear opportunity, then we will create one for him.

Do you ever travel? Enjoy weekend visits with your folks or old friends? Not usually?

Well, do it now. Hire yourself a professional investigator to monitor the where-abouts of your sweetie. Give him plenty of notice. If cheater is seeing someone else who is supposedly in a committed relationship, this will give them an opportunity to get their stories straight and free them self of their significant other during the same time.

Still nothing? You say, “but we haven’t spent one night apart in 25 years……”

Then you leave your investigator very few options. You must increase your budget.

We hate to ask. We like to work cost efficiently. But in cases such as the above, we just have to ask you to pick a time and go for it. Perhaps you can start with 30-40 hours. Let the investigator get out in the field to get a feel for his subject. He may find that after 5 hours spent tailing the subject, he has an idea of what’s going on and can offer helpful suggestions as far as when the subsequent surveillance sessions should realistically begin.

We do hope that these tips help. We want to help you, but remember, you’ve loved this person for how long now and you don’t know what’s going on.

First one has to be aware of the signs of infidelity and determine which ones apply to your situation. (Check out our page on The 30 Signs of infidelity) Second, you need to analyze the opportunities for being unfaithful. Third, you need to consult with an experienced private investigator to devise the most efficient strategy to catch the cheater in the act. Lastly, you need to assist the investigator in executing the plan to obtain the evidence.

All this can sound like basic advice, however catching someone in a lie and proving it can be challenging. In many cases the cheating person, (husband, wife, boyfriend or girlfriend, etc.) has been lying about the affair for months or years. You may have gotten to the point where you are questioning your own sanity about whether you are imaging it or not. Partnering with a professional investigator can bring objectivity and sanity to the process of solving your problem and ultimately give you Peace of Mind.

How do you go about getting started? Call ICU Investigation for a free consultation concerning your specific situation. We work with you to devise the best strategy for success. Our toll free line for your Free Discreet Confidential Consultation is (800) 524-9755. Or you can e-mail us at info@icuinvestigations.com

• Smelling “sex” on a partner.
• Your partner suddenly asks to have sex with other people.
• Your partner suddenly does not want to have sex anymore
• Your partner calls you by the name of another person during an act of sex (not a former boyfriend or girlfriend).

2. Revelations of sexual infidelity.

• You witness or are directly told of your partner having sex with another.
• Your partner confesses to having an affair.
• Someone admits to you they have been having sex with your partner.
• Exaggerated displays of affection.
• Your partner suddenly starts to profess his or her “love” more than they used to.
• Your partner suddenly starts acting overly affectionate.
• Your partner starts talking about sex more often.

3. Exaggerated displays of affection.

• Your partner suddenly starts to profess his or her “love” more than they used to.
• Your partner suddenly starts acting overly affectionate.
• Your partner starts talking about sex more often.

4. Sexual disinterest or boredom.

• Your partner starts to act like he or she is “going through the motions” when having sex.
• Your partner suddenly seems less sexually aroused.
• Your partner begins to have shorter sex sessions, replacing what was once a long, passionate experience.

5. Emotional disengagement

• Your partner doesn’t respond when you say, “I love you”.
• Your partner suddenly starts acting rude towards you and distancing himself or herself from your daily life.
• Your partner starts looking for reasons to start an argument with you and then says, “We just don’t get along – we should think about this relationship”.
• Your partner changes the subject when a certain person’s name comes up and acts anxious.
• Your partner refuses to make eye contact with you, where once this was not an issue.

The fact is, nobody wants to be emotionally violated. This is because feelings and emotions are fragile things and it hurts when the person we love causes pain. If you suspect that your partner is cheating, then it might be time to confront him or her and ask for answers. Before doing so, be sure to have a sound basis for making accusations – a charge of infidelity is extremely serious. Having the proof documented by a professional investigator can make all the difference.

If you have questions or concerns don’t hesitate and call us today or click the link at the top for a Free Consulation.  Get the professional help you need!