Humans are naturally social animals. So when someone inside your inner-circle breaks a couple rules, you may think it’s “not that bad” and follow suit. According to Scott Haltzman, M.D. in “Surviving Infidelity” on Psychologytoday.com, this social deviance can apply to the likelihood that your partner will cheat if they are surrounded by cheaters.
Haltzman states, “When one person bends social conventions, it sends a message to others around to do the same thing. It’s not quite ‘mob behavior,’ but it is one way that an individual gauges the difference between right and wrong.”
Steven M. Ortiz, assistant professor of sociology at Oregon State University, has tested this phenomenon with professional athletes, which seem to have a higher “tendency” to cheat with more time spent away from home, “groupies,” and the influence of other athletes or teammates around them.
This phenomenon applies to the general population, not just athletes. According to Ortiz, “poor social modeling can happen anywhere, and to anyone. It can take place at night clubs, fitness centers or business conferences.” Essentially, if your friends, coworkers, or other people that closely surround you are taking the time to show interest in extramarital affairs, you are more likely to feel this behavior is acceptable and follow suit, because if everyone else is doing it, it must be ok.
Are the people closest to your significant other straying? Take a hard look at your partner’s closest associations, as it may be a hard look into the behavior of your partner, as well. Contact ICU Investigations to begin an investigation today. Every investigation is unique and requires special preparation and attention to detail. We offer a free consultation to discuss your situation. The investigation is then prepped, planned and implemented by a specialist to meet your specific needs and obtain your desired results. Suspicious? Get Answers.
According to AshleyMadison.com, there is a growing group of women that are deciding to chase the men that have already said their vows. A decent percentage of these women are single and are deciding against finding their own committed relationship; AshleyMadison.com is reporting where you are most likely to find these women in the United States.
See the compiled list below; in order by percentage of how likely you are to find a mistress:
- Los Angeles, CA – 37.2%
- Washington, DC – 33.2%
- Phoenix, AZ – 31.7%
- Tampa, FL – 29.9%
- San Francisco, CA – 29.9%
- Dallas, TX – 28.5%
- Raleigh, NC – 28.1%
- Milwaukee, WI – 27.8%
- West Palm Beach, FL – 27.4%
- Louisville, KY – 26.8%
According to Noel Biderman, the CEO of AshleyMadison.com, “Not every woman is currently in pursuit of a white-picket fence lifestyle, relationship of permanence, children, mortgage and scheduled date night.”
Essentially, with women becoming more established in their careers and holding off on committed relationships, they are trying to find fun without the strings attached. Apparently, married men can give them what they want.
If you believe your spouse is having an extra-marital affair, every investigation is unique and requires special preparation and attention to detail. We offer a free consultation to discuss your unique situation. The investigation is then prepped, planned and implemented by a specialist to meet your specific needs and obtain your desired results. Call (800) 524-9755 today. We follow the investigation nationwide.
In our last article, “What you Don’t Know About Cheating,”
we briefly touched on the topic of the effortlessness of infidelity and how easy it can be facilitated with today’s technology. Now, thanks to an article on Huffington Post Divorce by Natalie Gregg, a family lawyer, we have highlighted below the easy streets and outlets of infidelity, and elaborated from a private investigator’s perspective.
Email/Texting: Setting up a rendezvous with your lover on the side can be generated without difficulty and within seconds using an email account or by sending a text message. Cheaters often think they can cover their tracks and erase the evidence by simply deleting the email or text in question. What the cheaters don’t know is that nothing is ever truly deleted. ICU Investigations can uncover this data utilizing computer and cell phone forensic techniques. Same concept rings true for the internet, which brings us to…
Craigslist/Backpage: Maybe the cheater is looking for a completely random experience with a completely random person. If so, a good place to start would be Craigslist or Backpage.com, where one can place a personal ad in minutes. Some even go as far to post pictures of themselves (if you’re smart, you leave out your face). Aside from sifting through the crude and unusual requests, zeroing in on a specific area aids in the search. Strike up a conversation and express interest. If a (real) name is revealed, they are caught red-handed.
AshleyMadison.com: While the idea of this website, committed married people seeking a secret affair with another committed married person, is insanely and morally wrong, canvassing this site gives us another avenue and opportunity to find your cheating spouse.
Technology will keep changing, and ICU Investigations will continuously adapt and address every avenue, even if just to find a lead. If conversations are not enough proof, and you want to physically catch your cheating spouse, the best avenue to take is surveillance. By hiring ICU Investigations, we get the proof you need without putting yourself in harm’s way. Contact ICU Investigations toll-free, (800) 524-9755 today for your free consultation.
With the advances in today’s technology,
cheating has become almost “easy.” There are so many more ways to communicate and begin an affair outside of your current relationship, and it seems that the average person may be catching on. But Askmen.com brings light to five things people don’t know about today’s world of cheating.
- Genetics Play a Role in a Woman’s Likeliness to Cheat
When women ovulate, the hormones released change the way a woman feels and carries herself. In an effort to procreate and keep the species alive, a woman is genetically fertile, “feels sexier and may dress more provocatively.”
According to Askmen.com, a woman’s body does not recognize the “I’m in a relationship” status, and ovulation can trigger interest in other men.
The Definitionof Infidelity
We all have our own definition of cheating, which is exactly the reason there is no clinical definition. This also poses a problem when your significant other feels their behavior is not considered deceitful, when you feel they have crossed the line.
- Men are More Likely to Spot a Cheater
Askmen.com reports that “statistically, men do better than women at detecting infidelity in their partner, but this could stem from the basic insecurity men have inevitably faced in the battle of the sexes before the discovery of DNA and paternity tests: How could a man know for certain that his spouse was carrying his child?” Back to our basic and primal insecurities again.
- Men Don’t Need a Reason
Some clinicians that treat couples believe that when a man cheats on his significant other, it may not have anything to do with being discontent in the relationship. But women mostly cheat because of the feeling of unhappiness.
Askmen.com reports that clinical psychologist, Dr. Joyce Hamilton Berry, compares (and generalizes) male infidelity to “a man walking into the kitchen and seeing a chocolate cake sitting on the counter. It looks good; it smells good. He is not hungry, but he will eat the cake anyway.”
- Newlyweds Make Their Way to a New Bed
Perhaps the most shocking statistic about infidelity, ever:
A 2005 British survey exposed that over 60% of cheaters have been a long-term relationship, in excess of 5 years. Fine. We get content and bored. But most shocking is the number of newlyweds that confessed to cheating within one year after getting married: 12% of men and 18% of women. In the big scheme of things, this survey projects that one in seven newlyweds will cheat within the first year of marriage.
Contact ICU Investigations today for your free consultation. If you are suspicious that your spouse or significant other may be straying, we will discreetly and confidentially establish surveillance and give you the proof you need. Suspicious? Get Answers with ICU Investigations.
An article on Huffington Post states that according to AshleyMadison.com, a site for married people looking to cheat on their spouses, you should be skeptical about letting your spouse go to their office holiday party alone.
A survey of 23,455 people with accounts on AshleyMadison.com says:
46.1% of men and 37.4% of women have cheated with a co-worker
Out of these reported cheaters, 59.8% of men and 72.2% of women say that the affair started
at an office holiday party.
89.1% of men and 83.2% of women have THOUGHT about having an extramarital affair with a co-worker.
94.7% of men and 96.3% of women have confessed to fantasizing about a co-worker.
These parties “offer an informal atmosphere, and when mixed with alcohol and pent-up sexual tensions between two colleagues, it’s a recipe for disaster,” says Noel Biderman, Ashley Madison’s CEO.
Has your spouse elected to go alone to the office Holiday party, and suspect your spouse may take things too far? Do you believe your spouse may have become involved in an extramarital affair with a co-worker? Contact ICU Investigations to set your suspicions straight with the safest, most covert surveillance efforts.